How To Make Dating Fun (Even After Years Of Being Together)

How To Make Dating Fun (Even After Years Of Being Together)
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When you first started dating, it was fun. It’s was exciting. It put butterflies in your stomach and made your heart race. That’s because at the beginning, everything was new. You and yours were still getting to know each other, so whether it was a restaurant, a movie, or just chilling on the couch, all of it was something you really looked forward to.

Now you’ve been in this relationship thing for a while and you’re kind of wondering if dating is really even necessary. You know a ton about each other, you’ve been to all of your favorite places---in some ways, it seems like it’s a waste of time and money. 

For the record, no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone, you should ALWAYS making dating a TOP priority! It gives you time to be alone together. It brings some romance back into the relationship. And if you do it right, it can make things exciting, each and every time.

Have we at least piqued your curiosity? If so, here are some things that the two of you can do to put the spark back into your dating life. No matter how long you’ve been together.

Alternate The Dating Plans

Some couples end up in a real dating rut because they find a few of things to do that they like...and they keep doing them. Look, no matter how much you might like a particular kind of food or movie, it’s gonna get old eventually. Something you can do to get out of this dating cycle is to have each of you take turns planning the date. Put a condition on it that it can’t be something that you’ve done within the past two months. That should bring a bit more excitement (and suspense) into your dating life. And since you only have to plan every other date, it takes some of the pressure off too.

Try Something New

New means “never done before”. When’s the last time you and yours have attempted that?! One sign of a truly healthy relationship is that you become a better person as a direct result of being in it. If you’ve never gone on a wine tasting, listened to country music, zip-lined, gone glamping, taken a hip-hop dance class or had a picnic indoors---what are you waiting for? Wouldn’t it be cool to look back at the end of this year and have a laundry list of new things you’ve tried? You can if the two of you work on trying out some new things. (Click here for a list of suggestions.)

Go On Day Trips

You might not have time to go on a long trip any time soon, but how about taking out a Saturday or Sunday to go on a day trip? It could be to a little town up the road or a city that’s no more than four hours away. Hang out, walk around, check out the boutiques and eateries. It’s a getaway without spending a ton of cash. And sometimes these kinds of dates make for the best memories.

Get (More) Into Each Other’s Worlds

We’re all for couples preserving some level of individuality even once they are in a relationship. For a lot of reasons, it’s a healthy thing to do. With that said, we’re not saying that you have to spend every waking hour together. We’re just saying that if your man likes to fish and you’ve never been before, try it. And if he’s never had a pedicure before, talk him into going with you once or twice. It’s another way to spend time together. It’s also a way to get to know each other’s worlds more and better. And that can give you even more to talk about.

Become The "Masters Of Surprise"

When’s the last time either one of you took each other completely by surprise? You know, like show up in a rental foreign luxury car for a date or had a chef waiting when you came home to cook you both a meal? Spontaneity is something that never grows old. Be intentional about bringing some of that into your relationship. If you both have something to look forward to, but you’re not exactly sure what that is, it can make for a really great dating life. For years and years to come!